What is Pegging?
Pegging is when a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. It's becoming increasingly popular among heterosexual couples as people discover the pleasure potential of prostate stimulation.
Pegging Guide
Role reversal: when she takes the lead with a strap-on. An increasingly popular practice that can deepen intimacy.
She Takes the Lead
Pegging puts her in the active, penetrative role—a powerful shift in dynamics that many couples find exciting.
His Pleasure
The prostate is sometimes called the "male G-spot." When stimulated, it can produce intense orgasms.
Deeper Intimacy
The vulnerability and trust required often brings couples closer together emotionally.
Starting the Conversation
If He Wants to Ask
- Choose a relaxed, non-sexual moment to bring it up
- "I've been curious about prostate stimulation..."
- Emphasize it's about pleasure and trusting her
- Be patient—she may need time to process
If She Wants to Try
- "I've heard prostate massage feels amazing..."
- "The idea of being in that role turns me on"
- Reassure him: "It doesn't change how I see you"
- Give him space if he's hesitant
Breaking the Stigma
Enjoying prostate stimulation has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It's simply anatomy— the prostate feels good when stimulated, regardless of who's doing the stimulating.
Equipment Guide
Choosing a Harness
- Fit matters — It should be snug and secure so she can thrust confidently
- Adjustable straps — Most harnesses have waist and thigh straps that adjust
- O-ring system — Allows you to swap different sized dildos
- Comfort padding — She'll be thrusting, so comfort matters
Choosing a Dildo
- Start SMALL — Seriously, smaller than you think. 4-5 inches, slim
- Body-safe silicone — Easiest to clean and most comfortable
- Slight curve — Helps target the prostate
- Flared base — Essential for strap-on use
Recommended Pegging Gear
Preparing Him
The same principles from women's anal preparation apply to men:
- Cleaning — Same douching process works for men
- Gradual training — Fingers first, then small toys, then strap-on
- Lots of lube — Even more important for beginners
- Relaxation techniques — Deep breathing, bearing down
- Start with prostate massage — Fingers or a prostate massager first
Take Your Time
Don't go from "never tried anything" to "full pegging" in one night. Many couples spend weeks or months gradually working up to strap-on play.
Best Positions
Missionary
Best for: Intimacy & beginners
Him on his back, legs up. Great for eye contact and she can stroke him simultaneously.
Doggy Style
Best for: Depth & prostate
Him on hands and knees. Allows deeper penetration and good prostate angle.
Him On Top
Best for: His control
She lies down, he lowers himself onto her. He controls depth and speed completely.
Spooning
Best for: Gentle & intimate
Both on your sides, her behind him. Shallow penetration, very gentle.
Tips for Her
- Start incredibly slow — Even slower than you think. Let him adjust
- Communicate constantly — "How does that feel?" "More?" "Slower?"
- Watch his body language — You can't feel what he feels, so pay attention
- Angle toward his belly — This targets the prostate
- Use your hands — Stroke him while pegging for combined pleasure
- It's a workout — Thrusting takes practice. Take breaks if you need them
Tips for Him
- Relax and breathe — Use the same relaxation techniques as women
- Communicate — Tell her what feels good and guide her
- Don't expect perfection — First time is about learning
- Touch yourself — Combine with self-pleasure for intensity
The Emotional Side
Pegging often creates a profound emotional connection. He's being incredibly vulnerable and trusting. She's taking on a powerful role. Many couples report feeling closer after exploring this together.
It Gets Better
Like all sexual activities, pegging improves with practice and communication. The first time might be awkward—you might fumble with the harness, the angle might be off. Laugh about it, adjust, and try again.